This has been under my ‘craw’ for quite some time. I like to think that when I practiced nursing, I wasn’t guilty of this, but I do recall my 87 year-old mother being called ‘dear’ or ‘honey’ or ‘Helen.’ Her response , was “I’m not ‘dear,’ ‘honey,’ or ‘Helen’ until I TELL you that it’s alright for you to call me that. It’s a bit presumptuous; forgetting for a minute how unprofessional it makes the nurse or whatever practitioner look!
Now, that I’m (gulp, 60!) and I’m called ‘hon’ by a 25 year-old nurse who assumes that I want those monikers, it does grate on my nerves a bit. ‘Honey’ is a term of endearment for you and for my husband, but not for a health professional; they diminish their stature each time they say those words.