March 16, 2014 (republished from 2011, same author)
Over the weekend while nursing a bad back, I had nothing but time on my hands and I thought many a negative thought. What good did feeling sorry for myself
do? NOTHING, NADA, ZILCH.
That got me to thinking about how and why we think those negative thoughts; after all, isn’t It bad enough that we have a chronic illness? But, thinking negative thoughts about the many losses we might have experienced with a chronic illness, is a is normal human reaction.
However, I think there comes a time to put negative feelings aside and move on. When I say, “move on,” I don’t mean that, in any way, we should pretend losses NEVER existed. But, it’s important to move on, move on IN SPITE of the losses and acknowledge that loss is a part of life. After all, we can only experience the good that life has to offer, if we’ve created an opening, a space for good. Here is the article I read over the weekend:
Moving on may be easier said than done, but by allowing a constant stream of negatives in our lives, we never leave the door of hope and positive thoughts open long enough to experience life’s goodness; so I’ve found that if I limit my ‘feeling sorry for myself’ time, I allow for some good feelings to enter.
We’ll never ‘get over’ losses completely; they’ll always make themselves known. Not being able to have children, losing a parent or having to maintain a strict diet that may accompany ulcerative colitis or crohn’s disease or other conditions in which there is a gluten intolerance are all losses. However, as time passes, there will be less ‘sting’ to them. Maybe that’s what we can look forward to; less sting!
So, ask yourself when you feel or experience a loss; is the cup half-full or half-empty? Think about how you’ll respond and give yourself a bit of time to feel sorry for your situation and to mourn it; but I think the best thing for your health is the positive thoughts that come from seeing your cup as half-full.
- The glass is – Just Drink the Damn Thing (gazaliahmad.com)
- Positive Thinkers (yasirimran.wordpress.com)
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