A Word to the Wise

In recuperating from my surgery, I allowed myself to be pampered and waited on. While this was necessary for a while, please don’t make a habit of this. Self-sufficiency is, by far the better option!

Not feeling like you can do for yourself only feeds the negative; again the “cold pricklies!” to free yourself as much as you can and you will feel more “warm fuzzies.”

But, the law of negative returns prevails if you’re continuously asking others for help when you can help yourself; (it just takes longer).Your body responds to this feedback loop by more pain, for example.

What is already a lengthy recovery time is made longer by the presence of lupus and fibromyalgia and a host of other medical conditions and medications; so be wise, do your exercises as instructed, do yourself a favor and “let yourself off of the hook” every now and then; realizing that “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”

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8 Replies to “A Word to the Wise”

  1. Annie:
    Your words my truth. First thank you for joining my blog. I have been pain free for two months. I do believe it was the Dr’s advice to detox physically, spiritually and emotionally. First thing We did was to move me out of managed care and empower me to live alone. I continue to work on my spiritual and physical detox but taking back my power was a big part of losing the pain so your article sing
    s to me.

    1. Many years ago, I had a doctor who believed strongly in the connection between the mind and the body. He also believed heavily in nutritional medicine and because I was taking so many medicines he made sure that I did a liver detox twice a year. Posts that include videos of him can be found under the “coping” category, on November 12, 2011, on November 5, 2011 and on October 23, 2011.

      Dr. de la Cruz has a unique perspective on the treatment of patients and when it wasn’t popular he worked hard to treat the real problem, as well as any symptoms that that problem was causing. I can’t classes for you on himself on self health skills and he has since left a 20+ year career as a family practice physician and open topped his own “practice” in nutritional and mind-body medicine. If you live anywhere near the Chicago area it would definitely be worth your while to look up Dr. Marco de la Cruz. Of all the physicians I’ve seen over the years (because I have many chronic illnesses), Dr. De la cruz has been the most holistic.

    2. Dear Phoenix, when I wrote the post I must’ve been on painkillers because I just reread it and it wasn’t a good representation of my thoughts. I’m glad you could see through the run-on sentences that didn’t mean a whole lot but I was trying to stress the need to “let yourself off the hook” for not being perfect.
      it’s interesting that you mention physical and spiritual and emotional detox; I’ve definitely done the physical detox several times, a liver detox and I have felt so much better. When this is over, and who knows when that will be, (so why note not do it now?). The good Lord only knows all the medications that have been added to my regimen and I can only imagine that my liver and intestines are all clogged up and working overtime.
      I’m glad you’re feeling empowered to advocate for yourself and I’m gladder that you have been pain free for 2 months. Keep up the good work, it’s probably due to the detox and the empowerment and increased physicality, spirituality, and emotionality.

  2. We have to let ourselves off the hook every now and then and take deep breaths and relax. I find that when I take my mind of myself and my problems, that somehow I have less pain.

    Even in recovery from surgery, I was able to find diversional activities. I feel better: Even if those diversional activities are only on the Internet. Fortunately, I can do my exercises and lately I’ve been finding things to do that I want to do like laundry, emptied dishwasher and occasionally do the dishes.

    Diid I say that several days ago I went for my maiden voyage in the car? Yes, my husband was with me and his face did not show a “sense of impending doom” or extreme fear? I talked to the physical therapist yesterday, she discharged me from home physical therapy and beginning Monday I start out patient physical therapy which I think, will go as long as 10 months

  3. Great post, it shows your spunk in your fight against lupus and the balance between pampering and pushing ourselves that we all need to remember! I am really enjoying your blog. 🙂

    1. Dear adventurer, thanks for your compliments but I must say that I have my bad days. also. Finding the right balance is a hard thing to do in a constant struggle, But I’m glad you enjoy my blog!

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