Like An Elephant

I think we’ve all felt this way at one time or another; smothered by well-intentioned people who don’t understand that even though on the outside we look ‘good,’ there’s a different story on the inside.

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  1. I always have a little stash I take with me into the hospital. Small bottle with mouthwash. My own face wipes – ditto with body wipes if it’s a hospital I know does not use their own (few do use the pop in the microwave ones, but they are great when they do). I take of course my toothbrush/paste if I can manage to get up to the sink or someone happens to bring me an ear dish. I can manage to use my drinking water and that to do my teeth from bed. Always take my brush and a bottle of my fav Oscar Blondi dry shampoo. If stuck without, you can use your baby power in your hair – also something I take in a tiny size with me. Works great for many freshen up things. I take my stuff in a fabric tote that zippers closed (like a Vera Bradley kind). I can always wash it afterwards when home – and being soft sided, lots squishes in, but it’s malleable and I can stuff it next to my side by the rail and it becomes part of my pillows – arm rest – whatever. It sadly takes being a patient too much to know these things – but I have what goes into my own stash bag down now. Brush and other things I did not mention. But anything you need for your personal stuff goes in. I always take lip balm of some kind too.Gone are the days they give you a whole bedside package. I always have to ask for lotion and Kleenex now most places.

    • Deer beach, I’m afraid I put myself at the mercy of what the hospital has and has not and if there’s a must have, I ask my husband to bring it from home. I’m lucky that recent hospitalizations have been short (KNOCK ON WOOD!) so the need for anything long term hasn’t arisen.

      That brings me to another thought, though. So much is taken from you when you go inpatient. You’re asked to be in one place at a certain time for tests, and that usually is your room. Or someone comes by and pokes and prods on THEIR schedule. Mealtimes are not on your schedule either. Do I hear a prison theme beginning? Freedom erodes, although only temporarily. As a nurse, I’ve seen ‘it’ from both sides and my perspective really changed, it made me such a more compassionate nurse, one with more empathy for what is often a terrifying experience of the unknown. It’s lonely ‘on the inside,’ and I actually welcomed people who came into my room, unless they disturbed my sleep or came to draw blood.

  2. I came by from The Curvy Spine. I’m 56 and will be facing Scoliosis surgery in the next few months. I’m scared is an understatement. Little things by your bedside mean the world to us. I’m hoping and praying that I have caring nurses. I witnessed my 91 yr old mom in the hosp after she broke her hip, all I can say is thank God my sister and I were there for her. She passed away in the caring hands of HOSPICE. I would NOT let her stay in the hospital. Now it will be my turn. They say 10 days ???? with rehab.
    Thank you for sharing.
    Love Claudie from Canada

    • Claudie, I think that dealing with the unknown is the hardest thing to do and scoliolis surgery i a complete unknonwn to me. That said, I do talk to a gal regularly who has had surgery for her scoloiolis, so it’s not a stranger to her. If you’d like to contact her, we can exchange information if you complete the ‘contact Annie’ form; that way your e-mail address will only be seen by me,

      10 days of rehab; sounds pretty good. How long in the hospital? It probably depends on the nature of the surgery. I’d be so glad to coordinate any help and I think I know just the person who can help you; if you’d like a few tips from someone who has been there,…Fil out the form and I’ll get back to you asap! Love, Annie

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